Coincidence or destiny? -1

It is a story of Siya and Ryan. Siya is an innocent girl with a couple of dreams in her eyes. Ryan has his own terms and ways of living life. He is a strong and confident teen having some goals to achieve. Read the story and find out what happened and how these two teens met. Was they just meant to be with each other or they have chosen the wrong person? 

The story will be released in different episodes. New episode at every sunday on this blog. Read out and find out;-)

EPISODE 1

SIYA

Today, I did something wrong. It was just an unintentional mistake. 'Sorry, I didn't meant that. You're getting me wrong.', I said. They replied, 'Your sorry is of no use now, Siya.' They were not family. They were not friends. They were just my classmates. I forgot to inform them about an assignment to be completed by today and in consequences they got punished. I don't know why I felt so upset when they thought that I'm wrong. I'm a kind of girl who don't want anyone to think wrong about me. Is it right? Am I the one girl who needs attention?, my conscience said in my mind. I walked out from the classroom. It was lunch break and I went towards my friends with frowned face. I'm not that type of person who can easily hide their feelings with a fake smile (I don't know why). Those people who can do this are so lucky. They can hide anything from the world and live happily. Fake smile is better than a frowning face. My friends interrogated, 'Why your face is like you have been told to pick up a cow dung in the morning?' Everyone laughed and mocked me. My mood got upset again. Why am I so sensitive on such things? Having all kind of negativities in my mind I spent that school day. We returned home in our school van.

As it was a daily ritual for me to check my Instagram account without changing school uniform, it was not something new for my mom to scold me. She yelled, 'Siya! First change your clothes and have your lunch!' After having lunch, my dad dropped me at the coaching. Being a 9th grade student, it's a huge study burden on my tiny shoulders. No one gives so much importance to this grade. Instead of 9th, everyone is so hyped about 10th grade. The increase in level of difficulty from 8th to 9th is much greater than that of 9th to 10th. 

The tuition classes were over and  I came back home. I picked up my mother's phone and logged in my instagram account. A lots of messages popped up. Chatting with 'insta friends' is a good past time. Several boys approach me for to be in a relationship. One says, 'I have never talked to a girl who is so humble and subtle.' Other one says, 'You're so cute.' Another one says, 'Please find me a girl just like you.' I replied, 'Am I running a matrimony here? Don't you have some other jobs to do?' That's how my day spends - Being flirted on by random guys. 

I haven't seen my crush since 2 days. He lives across the street of my home. A 4 year old girl ran towards me. She jumped over me with a widest smile ever. 'Hurray! I'm back. Let's go to garden.' , she giggled. She's my younger sister, Mayra who has returned from her tuition classes. I refused and she made a disappointed face. Both of us sat outside the house and I convinced her by bribing chocolates. I started missing him.

 I remember the first time we both saw each other. The sky was shaded with orange and red colors and the street lights were turned on. A boy with golden brown hair, big eyes and light beard was standing over a wall of a general store besides the house. I was sitting on patio (a sitting outside the house) with Mayra. He looked at me and smiled watching me playing with my sister. My sixth sense got activated and I noticed his glancing over me. I blushed like an idiot. I don't know where is he now a days. Let's just hope that I get to see him again , I assured myself.

Ryan

I opened my eyes and checked my phone. The time is 5:45 am and it's the time to get ready for school. After getting ready I left home without having breakfast. Who the hell is interested in breakfast at this early morning time? I jumped inside the Auto Rikshaw and felt the cold breeze at my face as the vehicle was moving. I was alone in the rikshaw and there was no one to talk so my mind led to develop a thoughts chain. I want to earn more and more money. How do we become rich? Which profession has the highest salary? I have to and I will definitely become the richest person in my family. Should I start a business or just have a job? come on Ryan! You're just in 10th grade! First focus on that dude! 

As I reached school, I met my friends and I got to know that Shreya(my ex girlfriend) has created a scene by fighting with another ex girlfriend, Pooja. Shreya was my first girlfriend and Pooja was the second one. Shreya thinks I dumped her for Pooja however it's not the truth. Well, I don't care now I have already dumped both of them! I don't care whether they are with me or not.  After all, There's a plenty of fishes in the sea! Gaurav said, 'Chal Ryan, cigarette pine chale!' (Come Ryan, let's have a cigarette!). I replied, 'Damn bro, it's early morning! We will have it in the afternoon after the school.' Yes I smoke and drink at a little age. But It was just due to my friends. The school bell rang and we took our places at the last benches. Most of the time I just slept during the class. I can never compromise on my sleep. Though I don't compromise my studies too. I study at home and tuition. After all it's 10th grade! After the school, I had a cigarette with my friends behind the school. The Auto rikshaw came and I sat inside to get back home. I don't know I'm feeling like something is good about to happen today. But my half day is over now and what good can happen now? 

When the rikshaw reached in my colony, a white colored school van was already standing in that lane. The van was heading in opposite direction of our rikshaw. As the rikshaw passed besides the van, I saw a girl holding a opened water bottle in her hands; perhaps she was drinking water. Her black hair were tied in two plates with a twisted bang behind one ear. All I noticed was her eyes. Her eyes were so deep. It shows how innocent she was. She was looking at me and so do I. It was funny for me to imagine her with me as anyone can say how different standards we both had. She was in a Van and I was in a Rikshaw. She had a steel water bottle and I had a plastic one. She was wearing a private school uniform and I was in a low privileged school. I think She is out of my reach. As the rikshaw passed, I turned around to see her again. It was surprising that she turned around too! I was so happy to see her face again, though her face got blurred as our vehicles parted our ways. I didn't assured myself by any fake assumptions that may be she liked me that's why she turned around. I just need to forget this incidence because there is no way to reach her. She is different and I am different. It was just an incident and not a sign by the universe that I am going to have my first love! Just forget this Ryan! Just forget this! I said to myself.

The MASTER WEAPON for life

When we get fail at a certain task, we always complain about the external factors- weather, poor health, other people, lack of resources, lack of time and so many others. Can we call these as excuses? No, these are not excuses obviously. They seem to be genuine reasons. But if they are becoming hinderance in your progress, aren't they required to be vanished? So despite of finding the solution 'externally' let us peek in some 'internal issues'.

Oh Rashi, which internal issues you're talking about?

Haha... be patient we are going to discuss it DEEPLY. After all it's about LIFE ;->

Firstly, let us do a simple and small exercise. Close your eyes for a minute and just figure out your life problems. It can be financial, familial, related to your partner, friends, work, it can be related to you. It can be anything, minor or major.

Opened eyes? ugh... so many problems na? Don't worry, you can find a solution for that. Of course, the solution is going to be difficult but how the life will exist if there is no difficulty? oh that internal issue thing? Ya we're coming on that. Let's find the solution! Aren't you excited to make your life simpler at least in your imagination? haha sorry to mock you lol! Let's go!

You can take a paper and pen and write down the problems (in short for your reference and clarity)

Note that there are some issues with people like, not so good boss, irritating people around you, never convincing parents, non understanding partners, traitors(mostly friends) and so many. You have to accept that you can't change the mentality of these peeps and should leave some issues unsolved. Remember the prayer of serinity!

God, give me grace to accept with serenity
the things that cannot be changed,
Courage to change the things
which should be changed,
and the Wisdom to distinguish
the one from the other.

You may notice, most of the problems are having cause indirectly related to your MENTAL or PHYSICAL HEALTH. 

• Disturbed/frustrated mind
• Lack of confidence
• lethargy/idleness
• hygienic problems
• Health related issues- diseases

and others which you may notice. That's the issue I was talking about- 'THE INTERNAL ISSUE'.

I know it's such a basic factor and that's why it's so important too. We take these fundamental things for granted. But you have to make your life better if you intend to. It's your choice, Be yourself or better yourself ;-) 

PHYSICAL HEALTH 

Hope you have heard about 'Body shaming'. If you're going through such situation, accept that every body is beautiful in itself. But don't interpret the concept improperly. Most of the girls like themselves as they are and that's the beautiful thing to accept and love yourself. But if this version of yourself is ceasing you to grow, it's better to get aware and keep improving yourself. If you're too chubby, are you active all the time? Obviously, you won't be. The fat in your body will decrease the efficiency of your mind as well as body. Everybody has different shapes and size- rounded, rectangle, hourglass, triangle & inverted triangle. This is the concept, never ever mock anyone for it's body shape. You too accept the way god has created you until it bothers you to grow. If it does so, wake up and start a diet and workout plan, not to get SLIM but to get FIT. If you're already fit, you too need some physical activities(if you're not doing any such activity) but you're not in alarming state in terms of physical health, but what about mental health? it's important too.

MENTAL HEALTH

Exercising can make your mind healthy too! How? Any physical activity helps you to relax the muscles of body and releases the tension in the body. YOGA is the best practice ever known to calm your mind. Apart from these methods, some other things should be kept in your mind for a better mental health. 

• Stay away from negative peeps. If they're part of your life try to maintain a distance from them. Some situations are there when these people discourage you, but try to figure out the situation if actually you're at fault- apologize politely, improve yourself silently and celebrate your success loudly!
• Do journaling. It'll help you when your life has become so much complicated that you've never imagined such situations will occur. Your diary will be your best friend to listen to you without judging you.
• Do a ME TIME! Do whatever you love to do. Paint, draw, sing, dance, anything which makes you happy, which takes you to a world where you meet yourself and nobody else.
• Watch comedy shows or cartoons. It's childish but can't you become a child for sometime for your tiny brain? At least watch shinchan if nothing else.
• Meet your favourite people. It makes us happy.
• Travel to your happy place. Travel wherever you always wanted to be. Ya, it's expensive and time consuming but it's worth it. At least travel to nearby natural destinations if nothing else;-)

Take a break from your busy schedule and do whatever you want and whatever makes you happy.

Most of these things are simple and less effort taking but some are much effort taking. Exercising is the most difficult task for some people that they don't even bother about their health. Now it's time to make yourself aware just for the sake of you, not for anybody else. Get up, make a choice, make a decision, make yourself prepared for the obstacles, fall 100 times, figure out your mistakes, get up, try try try, get succeed, reward yourself and keep going! Never stop!

Have a better life;-)

How to deal with stress and anxiety?

LIFE- A beautiful gift by God to living ones, isn't it? No? Yes I can understand life brings STRESS along with happiness too. Have you ever imagined that how this stress can be so unhealthy for your mental as well as physical health? Over 70% of people are dealing with stress which can disturb their both mental and physical health. This makes life more worse to live. And that's how people tend to give up on their lives, give up on the BEAUTIFUL GIFT by God. 

Can we restart our life? Can we be free birds again? Can we maintain our health despite of these daily chaos and jumble? Of course, we can! Let's start! oh, sorry let's RESTART ;-)

Follow these points to REFRESH your life so that all the ERRORS made(by you or other person in your life) can be DELETED or RECTIFIED.

POINT 1: Believe in yourself

Before starting, let us do a small but impactful exercise. Get up and stand front of a mirror near by you. Have a look at yourself. Not the way you look externally, the way you look INTERNALLY. Feel the connection with your inner self and build a trust on yourself because you are the only person who can understand your feelings. You know why? 'cause the person with whom you have spent most of the time is YOU only! and no one else. 

POINT 2: The deeper you go, more you get lost

Have you ever noticed the mystery of oceans? The upper parts look so beautiful with penetrating light rays through the water. However, the bottom ones, where the light rays are unable to reach, are left with DARKNESS where even a beacon will fail to help you find the way. Similarly in our lives(full of confusion) sometimes we go much deeper in certain thoughts which can tangle up and mess our lives. The more we try to figure out that what's right or wrong, the more we create confusion for ourselves. It's fine to leave some issues unsorted and just focus on the MOST IMPORTANT PRIORITIES.

POINT 3: A web is more complex than a straight chain

In our academics, we have studied about food web and food chain. We can recall that how a food web is more complex than a food chain. Applying the same concept to the real life issues, we can observe that if we make a STRAIGHT LINE of thoughts rather than keeping them in the head, in the form of a COMPLEX WEB, it will be more simpler to analyse our thoughts/issues.(if it's important/urgent to solve). Just write down all the thoughts that are coming in your head in a straight line and you'll get to know what was the issue and how you made it more complex. You can also use this method to relax your mind if your head is full of thoughts and confusion.

POINT 4: More you share, more you solace

We humans are afraid of sharing our discomforts. Either we feel shy to express our problems or we think we will sort it out by our own. Have you heard that song? 

We all need that someone

Who gets you like no one else

Right when you need it the most

We all need a soul to rely on

A shoulder to cry on

A friend through the highs and the lows

It's okay to extricate all your tensity in the form of tears in front of someone who can handle you, who can prompt you. But it's def not okay to keep all the pessimism inside your head and leave it to corrode your brain for long time. Thus, just make a try and sort everything at first and have a hope in yourself as well as on the destiny.

Well if you don't like this option, there's another one for you.

JOURNALING is one of the best methods for the introverts who want to stay alone but can't be alone. However, most of the people take this for granted. Of course no one will like to write down the same repetitive things daily on a piece of paper, right? But this method is actually very effective and is scientifically proven too. No need to write each and everything of your day but at least write down some gratitude stuff and your life goals to keep you going. When the habit will get developed, you will see the outcome and will realize the POWER OF WORDS spoken by you to yourself. The GRATITUDE thing is going to help you and this can be achieved by journaling method.

That's it! Just TRUST THE PROCESS and leave the rest ;-)

I hope this helped you. Don't worry, make a new start. I know you will rock it!

Have a nice LIFE!😊